Individual & Couples Therapy and Workshops for Personal and Spiritual Growth
Relational Feng Shui is rooted in the wisdom of nature, drawing inspiration from ancient Chinese philosophy, Indian Tantric traditions, and the ancestral heritage of my homeland, Slovenia. Just as the earth seeks balance and every living system depends on the free flow of energy, our relationships, too, need space to breathe, grow, and regenerate. By reconnecting with these natural rhythms, we can begin to heal what has been wounded, restore balance where it has been lost, and cultivate relationships that nourish both ourselves and the world we share.
The Chinese term feng shui (風水, fēng shuǐ) means "wind and water." 風 (fēng), wind, speaks of movement and change; 水 (shuǐ), water, of flow and the ability to adapt. Together, they express the ever-changing movement of life and the relationship between ourselves and the world around us.
Our relationships are living environments, too. They are shaped by the way we move towards one another, make space for each other, and respond to change. Sometimes, we grow closer; at other times, we need distance to breathe and find our way back to ourselves. When our relationships become rigid, familiar patterns can leave little room for something new to emerge. Like wind and water, we need both movement and space for life to flow between us.
Relational Feng Shui is about bringing this movement back into our relationships, creating the conditions in which we can meet each other more freely, connect more deeply, and grow together without losing ourselves.
Relational Feng Shui offers guidance and support in understanding and healing the wounds we carry within ourselves, in our families, and through the generations and societies that have shaped us. As we become aware of the deeper patterns that influence how we love, relate, and protect ourselves, we create the possibility of relating differently, both to ourselves and to one another.
Our relationships between women and men need not remain places where old wounds are repeated and pain is passed on. They can become places of mutual healing, nourishment, and transformation, where we learn to meet each other with greater understanding, take responsibility for our part in the relationship, and create something healthier together than either of us may have known before.
About me
My name is Špela Gornik, and healing has been the guiding thread throughout my life. Not in the conventional sense of treating illness or healing the body, but through working with the deeper layers of the human experience: personality, spirituality, sexuality, and the energetic dimensions of our relationships.
My journey has taken me around the world, and for more than two decades, I have immersed myself in the study of ancient Chinese classics on the cultivation of sexual energy and the art of nourishing life (养生法). With a degree in Sinology, I bring together my understanding of classical Chinese wisdom and my background in relational therapy, drawing on both in my work with individuals and couples.
For me, intimate relationships are far more than the connection between two people. What we experience with a partner often reflects deeper patterns within ourselves, shaped by our personal histories, emotional wounds, embodied experiences, and spiritual lives. Couples therapy is therefore only the tip of the iceberg; beneath the surface lies the much larger journey of understanding ourselves, healing old patterns, and learning to relate differently, both to ourselves and to one another.
In 2024, I had the opportunity to bring my expertise to the popular television show Married at First Sight (Poroka na prvi pogled), where I worked as a relationship expert, helping newlyweds navigate the complexities of intimacy and lay the foundations for healthier, more conscious relationships.
Relational Fengshui
The wounds we carry, the shame and fear we inherit, and the relentless pace of modern life can disconnect us from our natural capacity for intimacy, love, and connection.
How Can We Deepen Intimacy and Open to New Life?
Relational Feng Shui is an integrative approach to intimacy and relationships, rooted in the wisdom of the body, the healing power of nature, and the cultivation of sexual energy. It brings together relationship and sex therapy with ancient Eastern practices, offering couples a path toward deeper connection, embodied intimacy, and a more natural relationship with their own sexuality.
Drawing on cross-cultural studies, Daoist practices for cultivating life energy, Sri Vidya Tantra, trauma healing, ancestral wisdom, recovery, and contemporary neuroscience, Relational Feng Shui explores the intricate relationship between our bodies, our emotional lives, and the ways we love.
For couples wishing to conceive naturally, it offers an opportunity to rediscover sexuality beyond performance and expectation, reconnect with the body's innate rhythms, and approach the possibility of conception with greater presence, tenderness, and trust in the living intelligence of the body.
At its heart, Relational Feng Shui is an invitation to cultivate intimacy that nourishes life, honours the needs and boundaries of both partners, and allows love, sensuality, and the possibility of new life to unfold in a more natural and harmonious way.
Through individually tailored therapy and coaching, we cultivate new relational experiences that take root in the body, gently transform old patterns, and open the way to a deeper sense of self, more fulfilling relationships, and a renewed connection with life.
"Only a person who can bridge the objective and the subjective, the East and the West, the material and the spiritual, can become whole. The world is waiting for the whole human being to emerge. If we do not awaken to our wholeness soon, humanity may have no future. And this wholeness can emerge only through a deep and profound intelligence."
Osho
Let's return sexuality to its natural roots, heal what generations have carried, and awaken the innate wisdom, sensuality, and creative life force that live within us.
Testimonials
Adam
"Usual sessions with Spela include conversation and bodywork. However, sometimes I only need to talk with someone who is objective, understanding, who is not judging me and can help."
David
"I cannot praise Špela enough. She is utterly professional while also being empathetic. Absolutely non-judgemental, so there is no difficulty in opening up to her. Spela is to be recommended for anyone seeking spiritual healing by means of sensual discovery."
Steve
"Spela is a trustful, nice, attentive, person who can create a very strong connection with people easily. I felt safe and secure with her. The world is more threatening and agressive than kind and peaceful so this is rare and precious to feel safe and surrounded by kindness. The experience was really positive for me, followed by many dreams and visions."
Sean
"Sessions with Spela were both healing and eye opening in terms of energy transformation- I feel like I've finally experienced something which was previously just a concept in my head."
Relational Feng Shui invites you to discover what lies beneath the ways you've learned to love, protect yourself, and belong, so that you can meet yourself and others with greater honesty, intimacy, and the freedom to be fully alive in your relationships.