Sinologist, Relational Therapist and Conscious Sexuality Expert

In 2026, it will be 28 years since I first set out on a spiritual path exploring sexual energy and the ancient Chinese practices of nurturing life and cultivating vitality, known as 养生法 (yǎngshēng fǎ).

My journey began in my early teens, when books by spiritual teachers sparked questions that I couldn't find answers to in mainstream society, conventional education, or the New Age circles I encountered. I became determined to explore these questions for myself, searching for a deeper understanding of sexuality, human nature, and what it means to live a fulfilling life.

Before I graduated in Sinology, I was already studying some of the world's oldest classical texts on sexuality, working with both modern and classical Chinese. My studies and work took me to China, where I was able to explore these traditions in their original cultural and linguistic context.

For six years, I worked as an interpreter for Chinese doctors, who introduced me to yangsheng, the traditional Chinese art of nurturing life and preserving vitality. Later, I moved to London, where I worked as a sex therapist and somatic practitioner/ bodyworker. During my time in the UK, I also studied relational couples therapy, which deepened my understanding of how our personal histories, emotional patterns, and intimate relationships shape who we become.

It took many years of experience and inner work for me to let go of the intellectual armour I had built around myself and recognise what I was truly here to do. I came to understand that my work was not simply about sharing knowledge, but about helping create a culture in which people can build healthier, more respectful, and more fulfilling relationships.

This is what lies at the heart of Relational Feng Shui.

My work goes beyond symptoms and surface-level solutions. I look at the whole person, including the body, the psyche, our personal histories, and the patterns we bring into our relationships. I believe that we come to know ourselves not only through introspection, but also through the ways we connect with others, navigate intimacy, and learn to meet one another more honestly.

We all deserve relationships in which we can feel safe enough to be ourselves, express what is true for us, and experience genuine intimacy. At the same time, we each have a part to play in creating those relationships. For me, the work is about learning to live more authentically, in ways that honour both our embodied nature and our inner life.

Through Relational Feng Shui, I bring together my background in Chinese philosophy and traditions of cultivating vitality, my experience in sexuality and relational therapy, and my ongoing interest in what enables people to live, love, and relate more fully.